As a mom, it’s easy to get so swept up in taking care of everyone else that it’s easy to lose sight of taking care of YOU!
A wise person once told me, “You’re the only person who can take care of YOU. Don’t wait for someone else to do it.” (Thank you, Dad!)
So, to all the moms out there, let’s take a moment to first and foremost recognize your amazingness.
There’s no easy manual or set path for how to juggle all the demands mommyhood places on you, and yet, somehow you make those dollars stretch, feed those mouths, bandage the booboos, feed the pets, take care of your partner, vacuum the house, and somehow make it into bed before falling asleep on your feet.
If I asked you to tell me the last time you carved out time for yourself, would you have an answer that included some time in the past 6 months?
Now, I’m not gonna suggest you take off to Tahiti for a few weeks (unless you can, in which case, YES!! DO IT!!)
I am going to encourage you to at least consider what I lovingly call my Sanity Keepers.
This should come as no surprise, but if you can carve out just 30 minutes each day to get your sweat on, that is one of the biggest keys to sanity and overall health I’ve found as a mom.
Note: You don’t need to do a hardcore workout if you can’t or don’t have the time. However, you can fit a yoga, Pilates, walk, or dance-your-tail-off-to-your-favorite-music-while-no-one’s-watching session in that time.
I’m serious about the dancing thing. If nothing else, put on your favorite up-tempo album and a supportive pair of shoes, and just MOVE to the beat. Get that heart rate up! Flail those arms, tap into your Saturday Night Fever moves, work on twerking… whatever floats your boat!
Make like C&C Music Factory and let the rhythm move you! SWEAT! SWEAAAAAAAT!
Accept that you’re not Superwoman.
As silly as that sounds, let’s talk about how hard it is to keep your home (much less a single room) spotless. Especially with kidlings running around.
Instead of trying to clean all of the things all the time, can you get to a place where you can just accept that there will be a certain amount of build up, if you will, of clutter and such, and set aside one day a week to tackle the cleaning?
Then, on that one day a week, turn on some music, hand your kid the Swiffer, or put your baby in an outfit like this, and make it a “fun” and concerted group effort!
(I’m half kidding, btw, with the duster outfit. #hilarious!)
Set aside 15 minutes at some point in the day to Just. Get. Centered.
Write in your journal. Clip pictures out of magazines and put them in your dream scrapbook. Daydream. Meditate.
Check in with your Authentic Self.
Do whatever it is you need to do to have 15 blissfully uninterrupted moments of silence. It makes a difference on the sanity richter scale in the long run.
Whether you’re a stay-at-home-super-mom or a hard-working-career-mom, touch base with yourself about your goals. Your hopes. Your dreams.
Yes, you’re working hard to support your family and yourself, but what else do you want to achieve with your life?
Just because you’ve had kids doesn’t mean you have to give up your dreams.
Plus, what better way is there to show your kids that you can do anything you put your mind to or dream of than by doing that yourself?
When there’s a will, there’s a way. #amen
Last but not least. If you can find a way to fit this into your budget (even if it’s by setting aside $5 a week), try to treat yourself to something nice AT LEAST every 3-6 months.
This goes back to mommy’s sanity meter.
With $60, you probably could treat yourself to that new haircut you’ve been jonesing for a while now.
Or an hour-long massage. #bliss
Or taking yourself on a dinner and movie date.
Or heck, maybe it’s even a new pair of running shoes.
Whatever you choose, in my humble opinion, it’s ESSENTIAL that you treat yourself the way you would try to spoil a girlfriend or sister you adore when she’s been running hard channeling Superwoman and therefore deserving of an awesome, well-deserved treat.
What are your Sanity Keepers and your favorite ways to treat and spoil yourself? I’d love to hear from you!