When I ask you that, I’m not asking about getting your six-pack to show, feeling less exhausted all the time, or being a better writer/firefighter/senator.
No. I’m asking: Do you want to be better, think better, live with more purpose?
If you’re completely content with where you are in life right now and you don’t feel the need to grow any further, this post is not for you. You don’t need to read any further.
However, if you’re anything like me, and you feel that hunger to keep growing as a person, and to keep striving to reach your full potential, this one’s for you.
Before I share some awesome things with you about learning to do just that, I want to take a moment to share a story with you.
Several years ago, when I first started building my business, my coach recommended that I do some “personal development.” Duhn, duhn, DUHHHHNNNNNNNN!!!
I’m pretty sure my mind switched into the “off” position the moment those words hit my ears. I was immediately close-minded to hearing anything she had to say about “personal development” and totally blew her off. Just like one of those “hear no evil” monkeys. Or a toddler throwing a tantrum. Take your pick.
For a solid year, I struggled in my business.
I couldn’t stop questioning myself, asking myself stupid, self-defeating questions like, “Are you sure you didn’t make a mistake?” “Why did you even think that you could do this anyway?” “Who do you think you are, trying to help other people when, HELLO? You can’t even help yourself?”
Yeah. It got pretty ugly.
As it has almost always happened in my life, it wasn’t until I finally reached a desperate point when I shelved my pride and decided that it couldn’t hurt to LISTEN to guidance. You know, just in case the advice was worth heeding.
I can remember reading my first book – a book, mind you, that my coach had sent to me for free MONTHS beforehand that had just been collecting dust on my night stand. [FACE PALM]
Before I even finished the first chapter, my mind’s eye was being blinded because I was having SO MANY light bulb moments. It was like my brain firing off fireworks as though it were the 4th of July.
Great. Now I have Katy Perry’s Fireworks playing in my head. I digress.
After reading that book – well, no. WHILE reading it, I was becoming more aware of who I was and what my purpose should be.
I learned that I had been looking at it all in the wrong light. If I just made some adjustments, it would make a HUGE difference – not just in my life, but in the lives of the people I was trying to reach.
I’m not even sure who coined this phrase (yes, I could Google this, but it may just be fun to pretend it was Benjamin Franklin or Mark Twain), but the quote’s, “When you know better, you do better.”
This has become one of my mottos. Don’t misunderstand me – it’s not like I chant this over and over while in Side Crow – but it often comes to mind as I learn new things.
I grew SO much just from reading one book, that it made me ravenous for more growth despite the fact that I’m one of those people who doesn’t enjoy reading. Seriously. This takes major discipline for me. Just like passing up on the sweets at a Halloween or holiday party.
I realized learning more about myself helped strengthen my understanding of my purpose. I now understand the value of practicing this type of discipline. And it’s for that reason I’m sharing this with you now.
If you’re anything like me, the first step is to calmly decide to just allow your mind to be open to it. Like a new shirt whose color would really bring out your eyes, I encourage you just to try it on for size.
With an open heart and mind, take a stab at reading the book I’m going to recommend and just see if you don’t grow from reading it.
I DARE YOU!
Secondly, just like I would recommend when implementing any new discipline in your life, start out with a SMALL goal, like reading for 5-10 minutes a day.
Who CAN’T do that? 5 -10 minutes? That’s 0.69-1.3% percent of your day.
Anybody CAN do that; it’s just a matter of whether you’re willing or not.
Lastly, keep a highlighter or a pen and notepad nearby so that as you’re reading, you can remember/mark/note anything that stands out to you or something you’ve learned.
The book I’m going to recommend for you first wasn’t the first book I read.
It’s actually a book that I have just recently been reading, but it would have been a GREAT book to start my journey for personal growth.
(See? I can even write that now without the dramatic cue music!)
The book is John C. Maxwell’s The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth.
From the Introduction to the end, this book is packed with wisdom. I’ve learned something every step of the way through the book.
Consider this book to be your instruction manual for taking action steps to personal growth.
Read it and let me know what you think!
I’d love to hear from you!
If you’re going to read this book, or if you’ve already read the book, let me know!
I’d love to connect and discuss it even further with you. What better way to digest the info than to talk about it while we’re learning it?
Not interested in this book? Do you have a favorite book that has helped you grow in your life? I’d love to hear what you really liked about it.